By Saquonna Duncan
If you are like me, you see the end of the year as a chance to examine yourself, your career, life, etc. Some goals did not get started; while some were accomplished so flawlessly, I had to pat myself on the back. Last year as I approached 2019, I was returning to work from three months of maternity leave, a new baby, three other kids, a husband, a full-time job, and responsibilities as a Navy Reservist. There were many goals I had set for myself, and to accomplish everything was highly unrealistic and overly optimistic. This year I want to share my process for setting more realistic goals for 2020.
Take Everything into Account
If you choked a little at the description of my family life above, it’s okay. I’m used to the wide-eye expression I receive when I tell people about my life. It’s taken me all year to figure out this one. Everything goes on one calendar. Work, personal, spouse’s activities, kid’s activities, appointments, etc. I must think about all facets of my life and the amount of commitment the goal will require in addition to everyday life. If the color-coded calendar is already busting at the seams, something will have to go to make room, or the goal will have to be downsized or eliminated. I have learned that it is okay to say no.
Be Patient with Yourself
This one really hit me at the last WICT Speed Mentoring event. Kia Painter was one of the mentors, and her guidance was so relevant and motivating. The main takeaway that I got from her was to pace myself. Sometimes we may tend to want to achieve all our goals by a specific time so we can move on to the next one, check off that block, etc. It’s okay to take time off, refresh, and then revisit the goal. No goal is worth your health and getting all in a frenzy because you did not achieve the target by a certain time.
Ask for Input from Support System
Yes, your goals are your goals. Your support system will be there to help you achieve those goals, so reach out and consult with your closest supporters. My husband is my biggest champion, and he is supporting me in my goal of applying for law school in 2020. I kept putting this off until he expressed his support and laid out how we, as a family, could make that goal happen. They may be able to help you see what you can’t or suggest a goal that you hadn’t even considered.
We all know that our goals should be specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, and timely. So, for 2020, take care of yourself and put some serious thoughts into your goals.
WICT Southeast blogger, Saquonna Duncan is among all other things a devourer of books of all genres (in spurts after the house is quiet). She is the Subpoena Coordinator at Cox Communications, Inc. in the Legal department, aspiring lawyer, and soon to be retired Navy Veteran.